The Importance of Being There
I have much to write to you, but I do not want to use paper and ink. Instead, I hope to visit you and talk with you face to face, so that our joy may be complete.—2 John 1:12 (NIV)
The night is nearly over; the day is almost here. So, let us put aside the deeds of darkness and put on the armor of light.—ROMANS 13:12 (NIV)
A pastor who was caring for his wife shared with me how his wife responded when the doctor told her she had Alzheimer’s. She turned to her husband and said, ‘Well, I want everyone to know about it. I don’t want the people at church saying, ‘What’s wrong with her?!’” The husband felt a sense of relief and said, “I knew then what to do from the very beginning. I’ve always believed in open communication. We get into trouble when we try to fake things and cover up and all that. It’s best just to let it out. So, the people at church learned to adapt to my wife.”
Behaviors associated with dementia prompt us to protect our loved one from stares or whispers, so we often avoid taking them out. However, that behavior results in isolating ourselves from those who can provide support, and that can be a very dark place to dwell. Doing so also robs others of the opportunity to learn about our loved one’s illness and about our specific needs. Most importantly, it keeps us from putting on the armor of light by accepting help from those who can dispel the darkness through acts of kindness.
Lord, help me to come out of the darkness, clothe myself in your light and accept the love you have to show me through the gifts of others.
I have much to write to you, but I do not want to use paper and ink. Instead, I hope to visit you and talk with you face to face, so that our joy may be complete.—2 John 1:12 (NIV)
Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God.—2 Corinthians 1:3–4 (NIV)
The one who gets wisdom loves life; the one who cherishes understanding will soon prosper.—Proverbs 19:8 (NIV)