The Importance of Being There
I have much to write to you, but I do not want to use paper and ink. Instead, I hope to visit you and talk with you face to face, so that our joy may be complete.—2 John 1:12 (NIV)
Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds.—JAMES 1:2 (NIV)
It was one of those days. Heavy. Leaden. It took so much energy to deal with my husband’s dementia that I never felt truly happy anymore.
I decided to talk to my friend Rob about the way I was feeling. Rob had lost the love of his life to cancer a year earlier. He listened empathetically, but he didn’t baby me. “Our pain is not unique, you know,” he said. “C.S. Lewis said, ‘All human relationships end in loss.’ ”
Wow. Was that supposed to cheer me?
“I do have a suggestion though,” he said. “Find something each day to make you smile.”
Hmmm. Although that sounded pretty clichéd, I could at least try it. One day it was a neighbor’s dog that pierced my gloom. A few days later, a gentle breeze. Then, simply the aroma of cinnamon muffins. I kept thinking about my friend’s suggestion. He hadn’t told me to pretend to smile. He’d urged action! I needed to actually look for things that reliably made me smile.
I decided to try painting, something I’d always wanted to do, but never had the time. One painting led to another, and one day I realized that each painting was giving me genuine joy.
Oh, Lord, you tell us to think about the good things. Remind us to do more than just think. Urge us to seek the good that can make us happy.
I have much to write to you, but I do not want to use paper and ink. Instead, I hope to visit you and talk with you face to face, so that our joy may be complete.—2 John 1:12 (NIV)
Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God.—2 Corinthians 1:3–4 (NIV)
The one who gets wisdom loves life; the one who cherishes understanding will soon prosper.—Proverbs 19:8 (NIV)