Dating is an exciting time for our teens. As parents, we want our daughters to have fun, be safe and choose dates wisely.
But what do you do when your teen daughter or granddaughter comes home and says she has a new crush and it’s not a guy, but a girl?
In today’s society, it happens. Teens are more open to explore new and different relationships and to them it’s not a big deal when it comes to same sex dating.
We all have our dreams for our children and what kind of life we want them to have. Many of us pray for their future spouses. We think of our future grandchildren and future new sons to be.
Sometimes those dreams are shaken by the news your daughter tells you she’s not interested in guys.
What do you do when your teen daughter or granddaughter is in a relationship with a girl and not a guy?
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Remember God is in control and is all knowing. He has not forsaken you, nor has He forsaken your daughter. She is His child and His grace and love for her is limitless.
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Know that there is a difference between “girl crushes” and girl dating relationships. It’s normal for teen girls to admire other girls, normally called a girl crush. We like their style, personality and physical appearance.
The dynamics of a girl crush changes when emotions and romantic feelings become involved in the relationship. Take time to talk to your daughter and find out how she feels about other girls.
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Don’t panic or overreact. Stay calm and listen to your daughter. If she was raised in a Christian home, she already knows where you stand and what you believe.
Remind her what God says about relationships, but don’t guilt or shame her. This will push her farther away from you. Let the Lord’s love bring her back to His truth.
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Don’t blame yourself as a parent or a grandparent. It’s not your fault and it wasn’t any family circumstance that caused her interest to date other girls.
Express your feelings that you don’t agree with her, but continue to show your love for her. Seek God’s will for your life and your teen daughter.
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Stay firm in your walk with Him and let His promises to you and your teen unfold. They will always continue to unfold, but it will be in His timing, not ours. God’s love and kindness will lead her back to Him.
Don't you see how wonderfully kind, tolerant and patient God is with you? Does this mean nothing to you? Can't you see that his kindness is intended to turn you from your sin? (Romans 2:4, NIV)
His grace is sufficient. Do not give up or lose hope, and keep loving your teen and keep trusting in our Savior. He hasn’t forgotten.
