When a loved one is battling impaired judgment, your natural inclination may be to quietly take control of financial transactions and phone communications. Although direct action is warranted in order to protect your family’s interests, it is helpful to provide reassurance that you will work together to keep a watch over accounts and transactions.
The following examples may help you soften your communication style:
· “You’ve always paid your bills on time, Mom. Let’s work together to keep your track record perfect.”
· “Mom, the bank wants us to be very careful with our accounts and keep everything private, all right?”
· “Some people can’t be trusted, Mom. They can target anyone, so I put your name on the Do-Not-Call Registry.”
· “May I please help you keep your checkbook balanced?”
· “I appreciate you letting me be a part of your care.”
· “The world’s a different place now. I completely relate to your frustration, Mom. Let me give you a hand with your property taxes.”